Sunday, April 25, 2010

A Mother’s Loss, a Daughter’s Story

On April 21, 2010 Robin Pobregin wrote an article in The New York Times, about a mother choice to make a documentary of her daughter's life who died last year with a battle of bulimia. Melissa died at age 19 due to a heart attack that was induced by her eating disorder. Ms. Alvrin, Melissa's mother, wanted to make the documentary to not only help grieve with the loss of her daughter but to help other parents that are going through the same things that she did with her daughter. Many contributors have thanked her for her entries because they have given them hope and hopefully the understatement of what their loved one needs to recover. To this day Ms. Alvrin thinks that her daughter could have beaten the disorder of the damage wasn't already set to her body. Melissa's family and friends wish they had done more, like talked to her and cared more, so that the disorder didn't get to the point where she needed therapy. The website is called because in her journal she would write things like someday I'll eat breakfast and someday I'll keep a job for more then 3 weeks. Her brother Andrew finally now understands that dark life that she felt she lived, there were never happy days. Many see as Ms. Alvrin's choice to make the documentary wrong but she sees it as a way that she can cope with her loss and to help save other lives.
I found this article to be very upsetting yet up lifting as well. It is very sad that people do suffer from eating disorders and don't get the help that they need and either live a life of unhappiness or die. Whether there is an actual cure for eating disorders is unknown but many people are lucky enough to over come the disorder and live a happy life. I think that making a documentary of Melissa's life was very brave of her mother because it made her relive and rethink all of the hardships that her daughter, herself, and her family went through. Maybe with this website and documentary out there, family, friends, victims can see it and give them the hope and motivation that is needed to get help or overcome the disorder.

1 comment:

  1. I agree that Melissa's mother was very brave by making this documentary. I do not understand why people would think that it is wrong. The documentary could be helping someone right now deal with their problem and realize the risks involved with eating disorders. I think it raises awareness and there is nothing like a true story to touch someone's heart.